She woke up early this morning, sobbing.
We've been together for six years, and now she is diving into the deepest, most challenging healing that I saw coming from the very beginning.
And her blanket ripped.
And she can't make a new one.
So now it's my turn to learn to sew. She wants me to become a seamster.
What chance is it that two women tell you in the space of 18 months that you should learn to sew?
When I was deep in my polyamorous phase, when I got the same feedback from two, or God forbid, three women...it became increasingly difficult to not take it seriously.
In a partnership, your partner says something, you can just write it off. I'm not saying it's wise to do so, but it's easy to do that.
But when you get mirroring from two or three people+ about the same thing, it becomes very difficult to ignore.
I don't remember the feedback from back then, but I know that it hurt. (And not getting rejected while getting feedback was a completely new experience for me. Because criticism of any kind felt like rejection, originally.)
Not that this is criticism. It's more like a message from Beyond.
What I have learned and what I can advise men to do definitely: to listen for whatever you are told needs to change and change it. (!)
A lot of men say, "I chose her so she would support me! Not criticize me!"
Yeah, it's not fun. I get it.
But, I answer: "Whom would you rather have criticizing you? Her? Or the results you get out in the world?"
Whenever someone tells me that my criticism is harsh, I say, "Wait till you see how God does it."
Because whatever I can say is always gentle compared to when life comes to teach the lesson, no matter how it comes.
This is the same thing.
And sometimes you have to do some digging to figure out what was meant in the first place. That's the bonus round.
Pray for us.